Am I crazy to hurt so much?

Intense grief over the loss of a pet is normal and natural. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s silly, crazy, or overly sentimental to grieve!

During the years you spent with your pet (even if they were few), it became a significant and constant part of your life. It was a source of comfort and companionship, of unconditional love and acceptance, of fun and joy. So don’t be surprised if you feel devastated by the loss of such a relationship.

People who don’t understand the pet/owner bond may not understand your pain. All that matters, however, is how you feel. Don’t let others dictate your feelings: They are valid, and may be extremely painful. But remember, you are not alone: Thousands of pet owners have gone through the same feelings.

by Moira Anderson Allen, M.Ed.

Photos of Interesting Dog Memorials

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Making Hard Decisions

If you’re having a hard time deciding whether or not to bury or cremate your pet, then read this and let it sink in. Remember, this is a painful time for you. Take time to breathe and comfort yourself with some words from someone who understands:

“…For if the dog be well remembered, if sometimes she leaps through your dreams actual as in life, eyes kindling, laughing, begging, it matters not where that dog sleeps. On a hill where the wind is unrebuked and the trees are roaring, or beside a stream she knew in puppyhood, or somehwhere in the flatness of a pastureland where most exhilarating cattle graze. It is one to a dog, and all one to you, and nothing is gained and nothing lost–if memory lives. But there is one best place to bury a dog.

“If you bury her in this spot, she will come to you when you call–come to you over the grim, dim frontiers of death, and down the well-remembered path and to your side again. And though you may call a dozen living dogs to heel, they shall not growl at her nor resent her coming, for she belongs there.

“People may scoff at you, who see no lightest blade of grass bent by her footfall, who hear no whimper, people who have never really had a dog. Smile at them, for you shall know something that is hidden from them.

“The one best place to bury a good dog is in the heart of her master.”

-Anonymous

HEAVEN’S DOGGY-DOOR

My best friend closed his eyes last
night, As his head was in my hand.
The Doctors said he was in pain,
And it was hard for him to stand.

The thoughts that scurried through
my head, As I cradled him in my arms.
Were of his younger, puppy years,
And OH…his many charms.

Today, there was no gentle nudge
With an intense “I love you gaze”,
Only a heart thats filled with tears
Remembering our joy filled days.

But an Angel just appeared to me,
And he said, “You should cry no more,
GOD also loves our canine friends,
HE’s installed a ‘doggy-door”!

— Jan Cooper — 1995

Thinking of Jennifer Aniston & Her Dog Dolly

We all know losing a pet is tough & so this week we have been sending comforting thoughts to Jennifer Aniston & her dog, Dolly, since they have both lost an amazing friend.

(Click here to read more about the loss of Norman.)

I Stood By Your Bed

I Stood By Your Bed (Canine version)

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep. I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear, “It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea, You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore. I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care. I want to reassure you, that I’m not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key. I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said “It’s me.”
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday. To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew … in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over… I smile and watch you yawning and say “goodnight, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide, I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see. Be patient, live your journey out … then come home to be with me.
Author Unknown

Do Not Mourn My Passing

Do Not Mourn My Passing
Do not mourn my passing for if you could only see
by slipping all my earthly bonds, I’m young again and free.
By day I run the Heavenly fields, my body healthy and strong
At night I sleep at Angels’ Feet, lulled by Celestial Song.
So do not mourn my passing, just close your eyes – you’ll see
I’m once again that frisky pup, just as you remember me.
Author Unknown